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November

November

Hello November! My 2nd favorite month simply because this is my birth month!

The month didn’t start too well, though. We had to take our truck to the shop, again. It had a dead battery due to clogged fuel injectors or something like that. But it’s all better now, although the pocketbook took a bit of a hit.

This month should be filled with activity. Han’s on the road a bit, then music season starts up, my 40th birthday(!), plus trips up to my folks’ house. Not to mention that work is still pretty busy, and of course the holidays are right around the corner as they say. I still have to watch my 2 Halloween movies (Practical Magic and Hocus Pocus)! Don’t start showing Thanksgiving stuff yet in the stores or on TV, or even worse, Christmas stuff! Take it down a notch, retail world!

This post isn’t very interesting, but it’s NaBloPoMo, and I didn’t want to miss the first day!

Happy October!

Happy October!

(insert cliches here about the passage of time)

Hello, friends! This is truly the modern age. I’m typing this blog post on my iPhone through the WordPress app while riding in a car. Now I have no excuse not to post, right?

I’m on my way to Pasadena with the Acoustic Duo for a little private showcase that may help them get into some licensing opportunities, but who knows?

The summer was pretty good. I did some traveling. In June, I went to San Francisco for a conference. In August, I did a retreat for work. It was in San Diego, but it was down at the Hard Rock Hotel which was cool. The week after that I went to Denver & Colorado Springs which was awesome.

D went to Washington for about 3 weeks. When she got back, we had a little birthday party for her 14th birthday (wow). Han’s mom & sister were in town, Aunt Frankie came also. My folks were going to come, but unfortunately, my dad became sick.

He had developed peritonitis that put him in the hospital for close to 3 weeks. He’s back home now and working to build up his strength. He had to switch from peritoneal dialysis, which he did himself at home every day, to hemodialysis where he goes to a facility 3 times a week. Mom is there taking good care of him. She’s retired now so she has the time, thank goodness. I’ve gone up there a few times & will go up again next weekend. My sister will be there, along with her husband & son, the weekend of the 20th.

Things at work are pretty hectic with no end in sight, but it’s still good.

I put on a poetry & music show in August that went pretty good. I have a couple friends from Orange County who have recently released new books so I set up a reading for them. I wish more people would have been there, but it was still good.

On a totally random note, I finally saw “Bridesmaids” last night and I have to say it wasn’t as great as I thought it would be. I like Kristen Wiig, but it just wasn’t spectacular.

Okay, that’s enough for now. This typing on the keypad is getting a bit annoying.

Happy October!

some time away

some time away

Literally and figuratively. My time away from this blog has not been intentional. It feels like my life has been on full tilt since the beginning of the year. Mostly working. Trying to help parent an angsty 13 year old. The daily rigors of life. Not taking moments for myself.

And then…a week. At the end of March, while DK was on her school’s east coast trip, we made it possible to also take that time and get the hell out of town. It took a couple weeks to find the place, and we still had our doubts. Aside from the occasional trip to Disneyland, Han & I had never been on a vacation when it was just the two of us without music or family taking us to a destination. We had a few requirements. We wanted to be on the beach. Han wanted a jacuzzi tub in the room. All I really wanted was some good fish ‘n’ chips and the chance to not work. And I’m happy to report, we got it all.

Upon entering our fabulous room, we stepped out on our balcony, and this was our view:
view from balcony

and directly to the right:

We couldn’t believe our luck! The room was spacious and comfortable. And the town was like a step back in time. It’s amazing that such a town even exists in California. Just north of Morro Bay, Cayucos is a just little beach hamlet that feels like it was built specifically for this vacation. I know that sounds weird, but it truly was everything we wanted. Plus, the place we stayed was a bed and breakfast so every morning, we had a homemade, delicious breakfast (quiche, waffles, bacon & eggs!) and every afternoon they offered wine and snacks.

We arrived on Sunday after taking the coast up. We drove through Malibu and all the way up to Cayucos. We stopped in Oxnard (don’t recommend it) and San Luis Obispo where we discovered a Mexican restaurant we would try later. After we settled in our room, I walked across the street and got 2 orders of stupendous fish ‘n’ chips and fresh oysters on the half shell for Han. We couldn’t believe it! Han got in the jacuzzi and I lay on the bed. We had the sliding glass door open so the ocean breeze was coming in the room, the gas fireplace was blazing, and the sound of the ocean was so soothing. It was perfect.

On Monday, we drove a little bit north to Cambria. My parents have stayed there and really liked it. I thought it was a charming little town. Han had been through there on a tour a number of years ago, but he remembered it well. We drove up to the Cambria Pines Lodge and then I found a sign advertising the Red Moose Cookie Company. I’m a sucker for cookies so we followed the sign. We ended up in a tiny little space where the people were so nice and let us sample everything. We left with peanut butter cookies, molasses cookies and pumpkin cookie sandwiches. From there, we headed north again to check out the elephant seals. My dad had said it was worth it. I should say that the weather was good. It was clear, windy and cool. The elephant seal rookery was cool. There were so many of them! Here are some photos:

maybe the new Berkley Hart album cover?     

After elephant seal viewing, we headed back to Cambria and stopped at the Indigo Moon cafe for lunch. Another delicious meal. After that, we drove back to Cayucos. We stopped at a little convenience store and bought some water for the room. We wanted to have pizza for dinner, but it was closed, so we ended up having Duckie’s again. I had a shrimp burrito and Han had the Duckie’s burger. I forgot to mention their garlic fries. Outstanding. Our evenings (and our mornings) were spent mostly on the balcony, watching the waves and occasional surfers, the comings and goings of folks to the beach.

On Tuesday, we went back to Cambria and met up with our friend, Bruce. He’s a retired salmon fisherman that we know through Flan, so we went to his house in Cambria for a couple hours. It turns out that the place where we’d had lunch the day before used to be Bruce’s health food store  a number of years before. So trippy. It had been a while since we’d seen Bruce so it was good to see him. After that, we decided to head down to San Luis Obispo via a quick trip through Morro Bay, where we snapped a couple photos of the famous rock and saw a seal in the water. 

  

I was experiencing a weird phenomenon that day. I was realizing how terribly easy it is to disappear from your own life and be perfectly happy about it. Does that sound weird? I didn’t miss anything about not being at work, not having to think about doing the dishes or going grocery shopping. Then, at the same time, it was a little disturbing that I could just not be there and everything still went on. It was a weird feeling and it put me in a strange head space.

In SLO, we found that Mexican restaurant: Cielo. It’s new and it was pretty good. It’s right next to the Mission and the San Luis creek. I wanted to walk along the creek (there is a pathway), but there were ‘hoodlums’ hanging out around the entrance and I was intimidated. Han offered to go with me, but then I felt silly and decided not to go. I took a couple photos though.

 

That didn’t contribute to my already weird head space. But then, I remembered a place I’d seen, advertised as a ‘book bar and coffee house.’ Han dropped me off and said to take my time. It was called Kreuzberg and they sell used books and sell coffee and lunch items. Since I was full from lunch, I skipped any food or beverages, but I did do some book shopping. I found 2 books (Alice Hoffman’s “Local Girls” and Charles Baxter’s “The Feast of Love”) for $10, a steal. Then Han came to get me and we headed back north to Cayucos. We did have pizza that night from Ocean Front Pizza which was about 2 doors down from our room. That night, I wasn’t feeling very good. I don’t know if it was the head space contributing to my malaise, but it was an early night.

On Wednesday, we decided to drive on 46 east and see what was there. It turns out there are some awesome views and a bunch of wineries.

We didn’t stop at any wineries, but it was a really lovely drive. The weather had warmed up and it was just gorgeous. We took 46 east to 101 south then headed west on 41 and ended up in Morro Bay again. I had seen a restaurant the day before and remember that Bruce had mentioned that he’d eaten there so I suggested we go there. It’s called Dorn’s. We got an awesome window seat with this view:

I had fish ‘n’ chips again, plus we had calamari as an appetizer. I liked the batter on this fish better than Duckie’s but it was a bit greasier. After lunch, we headed back. It seems like there should be something we did, but there isn’t. Sitting on the balcony. Reading. Watching some TV. We rented a couple movies but didn’t watch them that day. Then, as the sun started setting, we decided to walk down the pier. It was awesome. Here are a bunch of photos from that:

        

After the pier, we thought we’d try the restaurant that was right next door to the B&B, Schooner’s Wharf, but there were no seats available and we didn’t feel like waiting. We went back to our room. We didn’t want to have Duckie’s again. So, we drove to Morro Bay and got McDonald’s. Not very high class, but it’ll do! We watched TV and listened to the water.

On Thursday, we got up and watched one of the movies we’d rented, “Stranger Than Fiction.” It’s one of my favorites, but Han hadn’t seen it. He enjoyed it. The weather was warming up and we both commented how hot we’d been while sleeping the night before. There’s no air conditioning in the room, but Han had brought a fan, so he set it up so it blew in the ocean air. It was good. We just lolled around that day. I forgot to mention that one of the days, I forget which, we visited the Brown Butter Baking Company which specializes in brown butter sea salt cookies. They had a different taste, but one that grows on you. We’d also stopped at Ruddell’s Smokehouse (which I guess will soon be featured on a Rachael Ray show, don’t know which one).

For lunch on Thursday, we did go back to Duckie’s. This time, we both had salads. Han had Cobb and I had one that was iceburg lettuce, shrimp, avocado and bleu cheese. Yum! Han was going to work on some songs for a while, but then realized he didn’t have a capo for his guitar which really bummed him out. I had planned on going for a walk while he played and he said I should still do that, so I did. I went down and walked along the beach. It was certainly the warmest day since we’d been there and the water felt really good on my little feetsies. It’s a rocky beach:

but it’s not the kind of rocky that is uncomfortable. There were actually jade rocks everywhere! It was really pleasant. Here are some more pics.

 

From the beach, I walked into town and returned the videos. Then I strolled into this store called Wine Country Olives and was given samples of these spectacular locally grown and pressed olive oils and balsamic vinegars. I promised I’d be back with Han. Then, I went back to the room. After a little while, Han wanted to walk along the beach, too, and I wasn’t about to miss another chance to do it. We went first to the Olive store and made some purchases and I took this photo a nice sculpture.

From there, we went to the beach and walked back toward the room. We picked up rocks and just enjoyed being out there.

We went back to the room for a while. During the whole week, I had tried to get online, if only to check my email quickly, but the B&B’s wi-fi didn’t work very well. Just as well for me. I didn’t mind. We also had brought some board games and puzzles, but those stayed in the box. It seemed whenever we had free time, we were out on the balcony. I also read the book “Local Girls” that I had bought in San Luis Obispo. Before we went to dinner that night, Han found a lonely road into the hills that we took. It just wound through avocado groves and the sun had just gone behind the hills so it was the perfect gloaming time and just really peaceful.

We went to dinner at the nicest place in town, Hoppe’s Garden Bistro. (By the way, for some reason I can’t insert hyperlinks, but you should totally google all of these places). Hoppe’s is considered “the most acclaimed restaurant on the central coast.” We sat outside in the garden and it was really lovely.

We had the seafood assortment as an appetizer (shrimp, scallops, oysters, and seafood stew). Really good. I had a glass of mer blanc, also good. Han ordered the surf and turf and I ordered the filet mignon with caramelized garlic and roasted tomato.

 

Just look at the size of those pieces of meat! Han’s was on a bed of butternut squash puree, which was heavenly. The scallop was wrapped in bacon and there was foie gras on top of the filet. Wow. Mine was really more about the meat. The sauce was very rich. By the time we were served, it was kind of dark out in the garden so I don’t even know what half the veggies were on my place, but the steak was delicious. I ended up dipping the last few bites into Han’s puree. I’ve got to learn how to make that. And we couldn’t leave without dessert. Han had the caramelized banana sundae and I had lavender creme brulee.

 

You could smell the lavender when you brought a bit of brulee to your mouth. It was really good, but very rich, and I couldn’t finish it. We were glad we had waited until the last night to really indulge in this great meal. Unfortunately, it was all a bit rich for my blood and I didn’t really feel too good the rest of the night. Maybe I should have stuck with seafood, but by then, it felt like all I’d eaten! I’d definitely eat there again.

So now it’s Friday, and it’s time for us to leave. We got all of our stuff together and had one last breakfast, although we should have skipped it since it was the least yummy of them all, and it set us behind our timeline a bit. The drive home was rather grueling as we hit LA and San Diego traffic. But we were home.

The rest of the weekend has been a matter of getting back into what we need to do. Me with the household stuff, Han with the studio work. Also the Acoustic Duo had a gig last night that went really great so that was a nice thing to be able to do. And tomorrow it’s back to work with happy memories to think about when I feel stress. I’ll know that there is a small beach town in central CA that felt like another home to me. Plus, it’s baseball season again and the Padres are already 2-1. It seriously feels like I was gone much longer than I was, and I’m not sure if that’s good or bad, but I’ll take it.

happy 2011!

happy 2011!

There goes my goal of posting every day!  Just kidding.  The last 2 weeks of December were a bit crazy (do you expect anything less?)

DK left for Washington on Saturday, 12/18. On Sunday, 12/19, we went to San Diego Troubadour holiday party which is always a good time to see everyone from the music world in a social setting rather than at a gig.  The highlight was when Jack Tempchin asked Han to join him for a couple songs, including “Peaceful, Easy Feeling.”  It felt like everyone at the party found their way inside at that moment and sang along at the tops of their lungs.  Sublime.

On Monday, we went to the House of Blues holiday party, courtesy of Cathryn.  Han made some connections, handed out business cards.  I ate something weird, or drank some wine that didn’t agree with me, and started to not feel well at all.  Bummer.  Nothing a night of sleep didn’t fix.

On Tuesday, Barbarella came over to discuss some business with Han.  We had wine (good this time) and little snacks.   The rest of the week was filled with work and whatnot.  On Christmas Eve, we went over to Cathryn’s for a small get-together.  We had lasagna, salad, and garlic bread.  It was a nice mellow evening.  After that, Han & I drove up to La Mirada.  Oh, I forgot to mention that on the 23rd, my truck had to be taken to the mechanic.  Tranismission.  So we scrambled and rented a car and I had to wait it out over the holidays to get something going to get the truck fixed. 

   Christmas day was nice. We went over to Mom & Dad’s around 9 am and got to opening gifts, then Dad made chocolate chip waffles, yum!  Then we decided to go see “True Grit.”  We all went except Tristan and Mom.  We all loved it and thought it was a great movie.  When we got home, there were appetizers waiting, and then it was time for dinner.  Mom made cannelones and roasted chicken. It was delicious!

 

On the 26th, we went over around 10:30 am, and the other Wann/O’Dell contingent was expected around 11-11:30 am. There was some family drama which I’m embarassed to say I caused, but we worked through it and had a pleasant day.  Dad made chili for the group along with rolls, and various chips & dips.  For dessert, pecan pie!  Yummy!  After the traditional photo-taking, everyone slowly took their leave.  Han and I hit the road and probably made it back by 7:30 pm.

  

Monday, I had plans to visit with Heather, but I had to cancel in order to take care of the truck.  My friend, Marcia, helped me out while Han had sessions.  Thank goodness I had the day off.  Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, I did have to work.  On Thursday night, I got my truck back and Han went to pick up DK and brought her back here and we had our Christmas, which was good. 

Friday, New Year’s Eve, was another day off, which I spent mainly lounging and not doing much of anything.  That night, we went to Cathryn’s again.  We had ham, twice-baked potatoes, green bean casserole (Han’s), plus Oreo truffles.  Really good food.  We played Balderdash and the wine went down easily. 

 

We stayed later than we’d planned, and on the way home, stopping for a booze mop, that wine that had gone down so easily, came up pretty easily, too.  Boo.  But those rolled tacos were delicious!

I slept ’til noon on the 1st.  That was sweet.  The rest of the day, we spent cleaning up the house, watching the Rose Bowl and hanging out.  We talked about going to a movie, but the time didn’t work out. 

Which brings me to today. I’ve spent time doing laundry and thinking about cleaning, but not getting very far.  I went to the grocery store and picked out this lovely new dark wood theme for my blog.  I have mixed feelings about going back to work tomorrow.  I am extremely conscious of the fact that it’s a new year and that there should be some resolution-making, or at the very least a concerted effort to make good things happen.  You with me?

haunted # 12 – 17

haunted # 12 – 17

I apologize for the lack of updates.  But I’m trying to make up for it with different ‘haunting’ moments for each day.  I hope you enjoy.

# 12

Marc Tiesen

Marc Tiesen was one of Han’s best friends in and after high school.  They were in bands together, wrote songs, got into trouble.  Sadly, Marc died 20 years ago from heart failure.  As long as I’ve known Han, I’ve known Marc’s name.  Over the years, I’ve met his mother and his sister.  One of Han’s songs was inspired by Marc.  It was actually the melody and some minimal lyrics that Marc came up that Han then finished after Marc’s death.  The Rock Band actually recorded the song on their CD.

With the advent of Facebook and its scary way of bringing people out of the woodwork, many of Han’s old friends have re-surfaced, some with the intention of putting together a tribute show to Marc.  One of these friends, Eric, came over last weekend.  He had also been in the bands along the way.  With him, he brought some old recordings, including one of the song that Marc improvised during a live show that became the complete song that Han recorded with Rock Band.  Han & Eric were in the other room, talking and reminiscing, then suddenly I heard the song, but it was really just the chorus that I recognized, the lilt and inflection of the melody.  And it was Marc.  I had never heard his voice before and the sensation that I felt was amazing, so I can only imagine how intense it was for Han to relive the moment and contemplate the years that have since passed.  Han explained that it was a live performance in front of a huge crowd and they were improvising and Marc just came up with this melody and these vague words.  I could tell it was really moving for Han to hear it.  Sometimes haunting is not scary, but beautiful.

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# 13

Thirteen great Halloween movies

I tried to make this list be just scary kind of haunting movies, but I couldn’t help throwing in a few funny ones.  These are all great flicks to get in the Halloween spirit.

1. The Others – One of Nicole Kidman’s best, and directed by a Chilean-born but raised in Spain director, his only English-speaking movie.  It is a classic suspense movie and I was not ready for the twist at the end.  Love this movie.

2. The Skeleton Key - I happened upon this one on cable one morning and was intrigued right away.  Old New Orleans, voodoo tales, and another nice twist.  I like Kate Hudson and she does a good job with this one.

3. Poltergeist - Still one of the scariest movies I’ve ever seen, and one of the major reasons that clowns scare the crap out of me.  A true classic.

4. The Exorcist - I remember trying to watch this as a kid and just couldn’t get through it.  When I got older, I got through it, and it is scary.  As time has gone on, the effects may not be so magical, but it is the atmosphere and the mood of it all that heightens the fear for me.  I also think Exorcist 3 could be in the list.

5. What Lies Beneath - A suburban tale with Harrison Ford & Michele Pfeifer with that scary bathroom scene.  I will always watch this one when I find it on cable.

6. The Shining – Between scary Jack Nicholson, weird Shelly Duvall, and the haunted hotel, this movie, another classic, mixes the insane with the terrifying.

7. The Omen - I still can’t watch this movie after seeing it just the one time when I was younger.  This movie has always set the bar for me as a story of  pure evil.  Bad Damien.

8. 1408 - I saw this one recently.  It’s not super scary, but it’s a good story and an interesting concept.  I thought John Cusack was good in it.

9. (now the fun ones): Practical Magic - I adore this movie.  Between Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman (again!), you’ve also got Dianne Wiest and Stockard Channing, plus ghosts, magic and rituals.  Always a great one for Halloween.

10. Hocus Pocus – Another one that I will always watch if it’s on.  The threesome of Bette Midler, Kathy Najimy, and Sarah Jessica Parker as three witchy sisters who come back to Salem after 300 years is just a good time.

11. The Witches of Eastwick - More Jack Nicholson and another Michelle Pfeifer film.  Well, plus Cher & Susan Sarandon.  These ladies conjure ol’ Jack and represent the ideal females, but their wiles work even on the devil.  Who can get over that cherry scene?

12. Beetlejuice - Poor ghosts Geena Davis & Alec Baldwin can’t scare away the family who’s moving into their house.  Winona Ryder can see them, but it takes Michael Keaton’s Beetlejuice to make things happen.  Catherine O’ Hara is classic in this one and the “Day-O” scene in the dining room still makes me giggle.

13. Scrooged - A double whammy since this one’s also good for Christmas.  I just saw this one again recently.  All the ghosts of Christmas are great and Bill Murray is great as the mean Frank X. Cross.

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# 14

The Haunted Mansion

I’m pretty sure I’ve confessed my love for this classic Disneyland ride more than once, but it truly is my favorite ride there.   It’s a complete experience even from the line.  I love how you don’t see the people getting off the ride and everything in between.  And I still hold that sometimes, there’s a knock on my doom buggy.

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#15

Lizzie Borden

Because we share the same name, I’ve been curious about this story for a while.  Last year, I did some research about it as I thought I might be her for Halloween.  We all know the rhyme, but as it turns out Lizzie Borden was acquitted of the crimes of killing her father and stepmother, though it was 1892 and the forensic evidence at the time wasn’t the greatest.  She went on to live a quiet life, supporting the arts and allegedly having an affair with an actress.  Her story, though, is still intriguing because the case was never solved and the story is still a mystery.  The house where the murders took place is now a bed and breakfast.  Is it haunted?

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# 16

Oingo Boingo

If you want music for your Halloween party, just throw on “Dead Man’s Party” or really any of the soundtracks Danny Elfman has created, mostly with Tim Burton (who should probably have his own category in my haunted theme).

In 1985, my family moved from Idaho to California.  I began to listen to KROQ and discover my affection for new wave music, including OB.  When I started high school, I met a guy who also liked them.  Oingo Boingo did annual Halloween shows and sometimes New Year’s Eve shows.  I think I saw one of each.  The one I remember was in Long Beach and the Untouchables opened the show.  What a great time, what a great band.  Twisted and loud, horns and angst, soul and ska.  I always think of them and their music around this time of year because their style (t-shirt designs, album artwork) generally had a lot of skulls and Dia de los Muertos kinds of motifs.  They rocked.

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# 17

The Great Pumpkin

Though not a true “haunted” thing, the Great Pumpkin is irrevocably tied to Halloween thanks to the Peanuts gang.  You gotta love Linus.

(p.s. I realize that Jack Skellington or “The Nightmare Before Christmas” should be included somewhere this month, but I’m afraid to admit that I have never seen it, so I don’t feel I have any authority to reference it).

catching up

catching up

Meanwhile, a week later…

This weekend, my internet has been acting quite temperamental.  Perhaps it’s the heat, because there’s a lot of it.

So, a quick rundown of the past week and the bits of joy I picked up along the way:

Monday: Drove up to Fallbrook for an appointment with a potential house concert host for the Acoustic Duo.  While it was hot, the drive was lovely and a nice variance to the routine.

Tuesday: the best part of the day was watching the All-Star game.  Now, I’m not keeping track or anything, but someone from the Padres has had a hand in each of the last 3 years of National League losses!  Oy!  That’s not good, but you can’t beat watching the game’s very best in a baseball-centric town like St Louis or even get a little choked up at the reception Pujols got from the hometown crowd, or marvel at how cool Obama was to throw out the first pitch.  Nice.

Wednesday: On Wednesdays, I take DK to church.  It lasts from 7-8:30 pm so I use that 90 minutes to just hang out on my own rather than driving back & forth to home.  I found this little random garden cafe, kind of just in this little courtyard between 2 office buildings.  They serve coffee & soda.  Last week, I went there and drank a Coke and read for a while.

Thursday: Han had a gig, but I chose to stay home because I had some work I needed to finish so the joy of that day was getting my work done.

Friday: Friday’s joy was an at-home date night with Han.  We grilled steaks and had some cocktails, lounged in the air-conditioned room and were just mellow.  Very nice.

Saturday: I was kind of worthless yesterday because of the multiple cocktails from the previous evening.  I didn’t do much but watch movies, some new (Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day, Tropic Thunder), some well-known and quite familiar (Enchanted, 27 Dresses).  Our friend, Barbara, was over recording during the day and it’s always good to see her.  She’ll be off to Austin in a few short weeks.

Sunday: Today’s joy so far is just getting stuff done.  I went to the grocery store, planned the menu for the week, and I’m about to start some laundry and do dishes. Another friend of ours, Kristen, is also leaving town and her farewell party is this evening so we’ll stop by to give her our best and then plan to go see the new Harry Potter movie :)

And now here we are!  Hope you’re having a fine Sunday!

the return of Java Joe’s & the rest of what’s happening

the return of Java Joe’s & the rest of what’s happening

I’m behind!

I didn’t post on Thursday because almost as soon as I got home from work, Han & I were out the door to run a couple errands before heading down to the new Java Joe’s.   Earlier in the year, Joe was planning to open up a new spot, but now he is co-opting (so to speak) with an existing place and booking music and running the place 4 nights a week (Thursday thru Sunday).  Han is scheduled to play there every Thursday in August with John, an old friend of ours.  The 2 of them used to play together back in the days of the first Java Joe’s in Poway.

It was cool to hear them play together again.  Han on his drum and John singing and playing guitar.  Han’s talent on the drum is truly remarkable.  The crowd was light but enthusiastic.  Hopefully, as word gets out, it will take on a new life.

Yesterday, I missed posting because I had a busy day at work, then after work, I drove up to LA to my folks’ house as my sister and her son are in town to visit.  Sandy will leave on Monday so I’m spending the weekend up here.  When I arrived last night, we hung around the dining room table and chatte for a while, then watched some TV.  I went to bed around 11 pm.  I was tired!

This morning, after eating a gigantic croissant, Sandy & I went to the movie.  We saw “The Proposal.”  It was better than I thought it would be. I forget how much of a sucker I am for those rom-coms, but they always get to me.  After the movie, we met my mom, dad & T at Puffy Taco, a place that’s been featured on “Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives.”  I had the taco plate (2 puffies, rice & beans).  I selected carne asada to fill my ‘puffies.’  We brought it back home and it was quite tasty.  Tonight, we’ll be going to Panda Inn (Panda Express’s parent).  This visit seems to have quite the gastronomic flair to it, eh?

To catch up on the joy-seeking:

Thursday’s joy: being back in the familiar atmosphere of Java Joe’s and thinking about all the memories I have of each of its incarnations

Friday’s joy: eating In ‘n’ Out Burger and hanging out with the family and the summer night air of this high school town of mine

Saturday’s joy: so far…hanging out with my slim sister and more just overall family time

feast or famine

feast or famine

Since I posted almost every day in April, I thought that maybe I could not post at all in May…not really, it’s just nearly turned out that way. Sorry. Things have been a little hectic around here, with very little chance of smoothing out any time soon.

Honestly, this month has been very trying for me. Emotionally, financially, and physically.

All month I have felt completely overwhelmed by the amount of work I have to do. Having a natural tendency toward laziness while at the same time a vigorous work ethic, I have been at odds with myself, spreading myself very thin and some people in my life have suffered the consequences. What’s worse is that I can’t seem to pull myself out of it. I mean I think I know all the ways that are supposed to work, but finding joy seems like a task unto itself. I am loaded on stress, whether it’s my job, the household, the music stuff, there seems to be very little respite. My mood swings have been dazzling and kind of scary.

The downturn in the economy has touched us and that’s never a good feeling. We are doing our best and have received some much appreciated help. I can only try my best to help get the ship righted a bit. See above re: stress.

And physically…I developed bursitis in my right shoulder. I actually went to the doctor (not my first choice usually) and was prescribed some strong anti-inflammatory medication. It seems to be working quite well.

All of this is not to say that I haven’t had some good days and good news this month:
- I spent some great quality time with my mom & dad at the beginning of the month and then just with my mom on Mother’s Day. That was seriously a fabulous day.
- I randomly headed down to Elevated where I witnessed how the little seed I helped to plant in the poetry scene some ten years ago has blossomed. I must say it was the strangest feeling sitting there, listening to these voices and knowing that I helped make it happen, and knowing that almost no one in the room knew who I was. That may sound sad, but it wasn’t. It was cool. And I did talk with a couple of the organizers (Ant Black and Christopher Wilson) who were very kind. I did read, too, and that is always a thrill.
- We pulled off successful back-to-back performances (as well as a show up in LA) to celebrate the release of the Acoustic Duo’s CD . The CD is being very well-received by the masses. They are traveling to Texas this weekend to perform at a huge festival that’s sure to further fuel the fire.
- DK landed a part in the Junior Theater production of Mulan Jr. which is very exciting. The show opens on June 26 and runs until July 12. We already have our tickets for opening and closing night and we’ll probably go to another show in between.
- I’ve kept up my reading (new books updated on my books page)
- We went to see “Angels & Demons” (I’m in serious need of bulking up my Flicks list)

So there’s good stuff. As my sister said, “You’ve got to punch a fun ticket every now and then.” And she’s right.

But what worries me is not seeming to be able to sustain the good mood, the happy attitude. What worries me is that I seem incapable of relaxing. I mean WTF? I mostly feel tired, jagged, coarse. Even when I try to plan relaxing things, I’m telling myself, “Okay, now is the time scheduled for relaxing.” That’s not how it’s supposed to work.

I usually am not this forthcoming about my personal well-being or state of mind on this blog. But I figure, the people I know who read this with any regularity are people who love me and who would want to know what’s going on with me, right?

So what’s ahead?
- Fast approaching is the release of the Rock Band’s CD (June 21) and there is a flurry of activity that accompanies such a thing. Many details that must be attended to.
- I have a reading on the 24th. A publication party for another anthology I was lucky enough to be selected for. It’s in National City which is kind of a drag, but I’ll get to see some friends (Robt!) who I haven’t seen in forever.
- Continued promotion and planning for Acoustic Duo and Rock Band gigs.
- Hopefully a pedicure if I can get the darn thing scheduled.
- and summer…I don’t know if I’ve looked forward to a season more than I am doing this year. I need the sun to soothe this stress and anxiety I have.

Sorry for the period of famine with regard to my posting. Here’s to more feasting.

birthday eve

birthday eve

Happy day before your birthday, Han!

Keeping a blog can sure remind you of the passage of time.  Lots of other things, too, but when you come back here and you realize your last post was February 12th, you just can’t believe it.  And I was going along so well with my every other day routine.  And I was writing some good stuff (I thought).

I wish I could tell you that after that last post, I had rushed to my desk and written 5 new amazing poems.  But that didn’t happen. So what have I been doing since February 12th?

In two words, cooking & reading.  There’s been other stuff in between, but those are the two things that first come to mind. When Han & I were first living together, he was repeatedly astonished at my lack of culinary skill.  That’s not to say he expected me to be in the kitchen to make sure his supper was ready on time, but in my single days, I just didn’t really cook much.  It was a lot of pasta and real simple stuff.  Stuff that he didn’t love.  He loves to cook but doesn’t have a lot of time for it.  Since we’ve moved in to this house (almost a year ago already!), I’ve made it a goal of mine to take on a lot more of the cooking and meal planning.  With DK a vegetarian again, that throws a curve into it all, too, but it all seems to be going okay.  I rely heavily on the internet, but Han recently had the idea to ask our family and friends to give us 5 recipes each.  So, there it is: if you’re reading this, please send me 5 of your favorite recipes, or recipes from your homeland (Mom, Mia) so we can expand our evening meals.  That said, our friend, John (of the gumbo-making) is in the kitchen right now making his sweet & smothered pork chops.  He told us that he didn’t have recipes written down but that he’d come over and make it and tell us what he was doing as he went along.   Yum.

Here’s a short list of some of the more interesting things I’ve made over the last 3 weeks:
- chicken stroganoff
- cashew chicken
- shrimp burritos
- chicken parmesan
- fish vera cruz

Tomorrow I plan to bake a cake for Han.  A chocolate peanut butter cake.  From scratch.  I’ll let you know how it goes.

On the reading front, I finished two books and will probably finish my other two by Sunday. [I've been keeping my Books page updated.] I try to read every spare minute, even when I’m waiting at traffic lights!  I’ve found it quite easy to keep up with all of the different stories.  This Sunday is my book club meeting (to discuss Away) and we’ll select a new book.  I’ll probably pick up a couple additional ones, too.  I’m loving the library!!

What else?  Han’s Acoustic Duo played a Valentine’s Day house concert, which went very well.   I had a day off for President’s Day.  I was part of a reading to celebrate the publication of an anthology I’m published in (more on that in another post to come).  And my parents celebrated their 44th wedding anniversary!

Speaking of parent, on the 21st, I drove up to LA to and spent the night at my folks house while my sister, her husband and her son were there for the day before they got on a cruise to the Mexican Riviera the next day.  We had a really great time.  We went out to lunch (MT & I had sushi), then my mom, sister & I went to see “He’s Just Not That Into You” (not bad).  I hadn’t planned to spend the night, but they applied heavy family pressure (not usual!) and we were having a great time, so I stayed.  We had In ‘n’ Out for dinner, then Red, Mom & I played Scrabble.  For the first time in quite a while, my mom did not win.  Red won the first game (with really awesome words!) and I somehow managed to win the second game.   In the morning, Dad made chocolate chip waffles (nostalgic!), eggs, bacon and sausage.  We hung out a bit and then I hit the road.  A very awesome visit!

That Sunday was the Oscars and Han & I watched them.  We thought they were great, including Hugh Jackman.  I read some blogs on the Monday following the show that just panned them, but I thought they were lovely.  Hooray for Kate Winslet.  I’d like to drink a pint with her.

From there, it was your basic week, except it was Marcia’s birthday! She was playing a gig with Barbara downtown so we went down to help her celebrate.  Before we arrived though, we made a stop at another place, which I can’t name yet, as it’s not opened.  But it’s the return of an establishment where I spent many many hours and where I met many of the people currently in my life.  The new location is downtown and the owners were working on some demolition to prepare for the opening (they’re shooting for early April).  They even let me do some demo of my own.  It was curiously satisfying to put a hammer through some drywall and do some damage!   After that, we made it to the bar, where we ended up hanging out for a long time.  Han actually sat in with Barbara & her band so it’s not like I could just leave (and not that I wanted to!).  It was a fun evening.  The night after that (the 27th for those keeping track), Han’s Rock Band had a gig which is always a good time.   

And then it was March!  This week marked the official start of the recording for the Acoustic Duo’s next album.  It will be a quick project, they have a mastering date set for the end of the month.  We want to have them ready for a festival they’re on in May in Texas.  I’m really looking forward to the record and all the hoopla that goes with it. 

Also, the Rock Band’s record is also progressing now.  Han is laying down his vocal tracks this week (sandwiched in between his various other projects).  Both these records will be coming out around the same time which should be interesting promotion-wise.  We’ll have to plan our attacks strategically so we don’t cannibalize the projects and the relatively limited availability of promoting avenues.

What else?  Han’s birthday is tomorrow!  The day is starting with a Rock Band photo shoot for the record.  I’ll make the cake and probably some other food.  We’ll have some people over then head to OB to catch our friends playing down at Winston’s.  Later that week, we’ll head to the Belly-Up to catch David Rawlings Machine (and Gillian will be there, too).  I plan to drive up to Tarzana the weekend after to see my old friend, Mindy, at a reading.  My nephew’s birthday is coming up too so I gotta get something in the mail for him.  A few Rock Band gigs.  An Acoustic Duo gig. And then I’m looking at April.  Somewhere in there, I have to also prepare my taxes (easy) and work on the ones for Han and his multiple businesses (hard), schedule my spa session, ship some stuff, set up my external hard drive, catch up on my Late Night with Jimmy Fallon shows as well as the U2 performances on Letterman, upload my photos to flickr, and of course, cook and read :)