I only had one post in May, a book review.
I wanted to write in the last week of May about the anniversary of George Floyd’s murder, about Palestine, about the 100th anniversary of the Tulsa Race Massacre, about the discovery of 215 Indigenous children’s bodies found in a mass grave under a residential school in Canada, and even about Naomi Osaka. All of it was hugely present in my thoughts, especially yesterday. I was quite down about it all. And even though I took Roxane Gay’s Masterclass about writing for social change, I could not pull it together to write something to accurately and coherently express my thoughts and what made me so sad about everything. I’ll just say that there is still so much that the people of powerful countries must learn and translate into action.
So now it’s June, pride month, and while there are many states passing laws to make it extremely difficult for trans people to get the healthcare they need or to play sports, and the Supreme Court will give a ruling on whether a Catholic agency has the right to deny placing foster children with same-sex couples, it’s also become the Right Thing to Do for brands and companies to promote LGBTQ+ with rainbows everywhere and Love is Love at every turn. Don’t get me wrong, I agree that it’s the right thing to do, but it must be done with sincerity and authenticity, not just as way to sell a t-shirt.
I’ve been doing some reading about asexuality (the A in LGBTQIA) because I identify with that term in a way, and there is lots of variation and quite a broad spectrum. I will have to read more and ask myself some questions to get more granular as to where I fit on that spectrum, but I don’t think it’s a big deal or feel the need to have a ‘coming out’ (I guess I just did here though I’d already said as much to my mom and some friends). It doesn’t mean I’m anti-sex, it just means that I’m not drawn to people sexually or want to act upon attraction in a sexual way and that a lack of sex doesn’t cause me any distress or affect my well-being. I still find people attractive and can appreciate physical attributes. I just don’t need or want to jump their bones. Anyway, that’s all to say that this is all kind of new to me (if it is to you, too, maybe check this out: https://www.subvrtmag.com/what-is-asexuality-yasmin-benoit-challenges-7-myths/), so I’m having a hard time feeling worthy of including myself in the LGBTQ+ community, but I have long celebrated pride as an ally and still feel like an ally. I’m just saying maybe I need to find myself a good t-shirt. (pictured t-shirt is from https://www.etsy.com/listing/992510334/subtle-asexual-flower-shirt-no-pronouns?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=asexual&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&from_market_listing_grid_organic=1&pro=1)